How to Breathe for Sex
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Breathing is key to enhancing your sexual experience. Most people
exist in a state of tension obstructing the breath, holding it and
forcing it to become shallow. If you are stuck sexually and want
to "feel more" a straightforward and effective route is through
deeper and more aware breathing.
Breathing has a direct correlation to sexual pleasure. It is easy
to do, it requires no special equipment and it brings immediate
results such as:
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- Increase Arousal
- Increase Intensity
- Increase Sexual Connection with your Partner
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Increasing Arousal
Breathing helps you to relax and feel more. Really! When we are tense
or anxious our bodies prepare us to run away from or fight a stressful
situation. Although modern life has few tigers to run away from anymore,
our bodies still respond as if we do.
A worrisome business meeting or an overdue bill can cause muscles
to tense up, breathing to become shallow and blood flow to be shunted
AWAY from the skin to more vital areas such as muscles and heart.
Basic breathing techniques help to increase sexual arousal by telling
the body to stop the stress response and bring blood flow back into
the skin. With more blood (which brings oxygen, stimulation, energy
and warmth) the skin becomes more sensitive. And part of where we
need it most, the genitals.
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Step 1: Become aware of your tension.
The first step is to become aware of your tension. Tense muscles of
the stomach and pelvis do two things: block proper breathing and block
blood flow to sensitive areas. You cannot get breath properly or get
aroused if your abdominal or pelvic muscles are tight. |
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1. Sit comfortably
2. Consciously tense your stomach. Relax. Do this a few times to become
aware of any stomach tension.
3. Now, do the same thing while you breathe out.
4. When you reach the point where you need air relax your muscles
and breathe in. |
Step 2: Deep Belly Breaths.
The natural state that encourages sensation, relaxation and arousal
is a deeper breath than the shallow ones we rely on normally. |
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1. Lie on your back with your legs bent, feet on the
floor.
2. Take one breath in for four seconds feeling the air fill the entire
lung and down into the belly. Let the belly expand. Push out the belly
as much as you can. Wait four seconds.
3. Breathe out letting the belly deflate first, then the lungs. Force
out every last bit of breath. Do this four times. |
Step 3: Bring focus to your genitals.
Practice breathing deeply to draw blood flow and awareness to the
areas of the body vital to sexual pleasure.
Include your pelvic muscles. You will bring oxygen, warmth and
energy to all the right places: |
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a. Consciously tense your PC muscles. Hold for a few
seconds (as if you are stopping the flow of urine). Relax. Do this
a few times to get used to the feeling.
b. Now, tense the PC muscles while you breathe out. Hold for a few
seconds. Relax the muscle while you inhale. Relax. Repeat 5 times.
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Breathe into the genitals.
Imagine as you breathe in that the breath is going into the pelvis.
This may seem a little silly as the breath doesn't actually have a
place to go that far down but it is the awareness of the area that
does wonders for bringing heat and sensation to the genitals. Your
genitals should tingle a little and you should feel "in your body".
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Increase Orgasm Intensity
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Mimic your orgasm reflex:
1. Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet on the floor.
2. Arch the small of your back, pressing the tailbone down into
the floor. Inhale as you arch (3-4 seconds).
3. Breathe out as you flatten small of back to the floor, tilting
the tailbone up to the ceiling (3-4 seconds). Relax. Let your throat
go and sigh loudly. Ahhhh. Make more sound than you naturally would.
Now, speed up your movements. Your breath no longer will coordinate
with your movements. Keep breathing full and long in and out for
5 long breaths while you let your body gyrate, allowing the movements
to become faster and almost random. Let your body do whatever feels
best.
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Increase Intimacy and Sexual Connection
Partnered Breathing.
Breathing together can increase intimacy and bring lovers in synch with
their partner.
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1. Soulful Gaze.
Sit on the floor facing your partner. Look into each other's eyes.
This is not a staring contest, when your eyes get tired close them
or look away for a few seconds. Let it happen. |
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a. Close your eyes for a few minutes while you bring your attention
to your own breath. Pay attention to how your chest expands, how your
belly moves up and down or how your pelvis naturally tilts.
b. Open your eyes, make eye contact and now pay attention to your
partner's breath. Expand your gaze to include their chest. See how
it rises and falls. Expand your gaze to include his belly, then pelvis.
All the while keeping some eye contact.
c. Have your partner breathe normally. Become aware of his/her breath.
Follow it. Breathe in rhythm for a few minutes. Play with your breath
together. Don't force it. When you fall out of synch with each other
just let it happen. Dance with each other's breath. |
2. Synchronized Breathing.
Lie in a spoon position. Relax, get comfy. Breathe naturally. |
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a. Bring your attention to your partner's breath. Become aware
of how their breath sounds. Sense how the breath feels next to your
body. Become aware of the rhythm and the depth of their breath.
b. Have the person who is positioned in front lead by initiating
the pace of the breath. Take one long breath in filling the lungs
and belly letting it rush out of you with a big sigh. Ahhhhh.
c. Have the person in behind follow the rhythm and depth of the
breath. Do this a few times.
d. Change roles so the person in the back leads. Repeat
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