Sex Quest Week #2
Be a queen for the day ... A Size Queen

What does a size queen do?  Ultimately, she tests her limits with size.  By inserting an objet into her vagina (or anus) that is slightly larger than what she is used to, she increases sensation and learns more about how her body responds to sexual pleasure.

A woman does not need to accomodate an eggplant to qualify as a size queen.  In fact, the only thing she needs to do is take something a size larger than what she would normally take.  

The purpose of this quest is to stimulate the "stretch" receptors in the vagina.  A size queen may play with that highly stimulating boundary between pleasure and pain, but pain is not the objective and is a sign you should stop or slow down.

1. Preparing for Size

Clear some time and space when and where you know you will not be disturbed.

Use Lube.  Anxiety can cause your natural lubrication to dry up, and a dry size queen is an unhappy size queen.  Have lots of lubricant on hand.  (silicone lube for the ultra slippery experiences, or a thicker lube like Maximus)

2. Choose the best size for you
Size is relative.  To some women a carrot is big enough and to others an eggplant will not be big enough.  Judge where you are in that continuum by looking at the size of object you feel most comfortable with and go up one notch. 
Some don'ts:

• DO NOT let your partner make this decision for you,
• Do not go too big the first time
• Do not choose an unsafe object that will break, get stuck or hurt you in any way. 

A silicone or cyberskin dildo are the most effective. (we recommend King monster dildo, Goman Vibrator and more thick sex toys)

3. Take it slow. 
This is the most importat tip you can get.  It will NOT work if you rush it.  Push the object in to the point where you feel yourself tense or feel any discomfort.  Stop pushing. Keep gentle pressure but do not try to advance it at all.  Your muscles will relax when they are ready and open up on their own.  This takes patience.  Allow your body to know when it is ready. 

4. Relax. 
Breathing will be the size queens most important tool.  It relaxes the muscles that need to relax to accomodate a larger object.

For the partner:

Patience, patience, patience... Get comfortable. You will there a while.  If you partner feels rushed she will tense up and everything will take even longer.  Enjoy the sight of this intimate act.  Let yourself feel connected to your lover and this moment of pleasure and intimacy.
  

The benefits of being a size queen

Why would you want to fit something bigger in your vagina than normal?  Because ...

1. Pushing sexual limites can be extemely sexually exciting.  For some, there is nothing better. 

2. Pushing a limit together with a partner can be a great way to increase intimacy.

3. Introducing a larger object causes pleasure receptors to fire in the vagina that would not normally have been triggered by a smaller object.  In other words, more pleasure.

4. Pushing limits help to know your limits.  And knowing your limits makes you a more confident lover.

4. Introducing different sizes and pressures to your vagina help you to know your body better making you a better lover. 

Size Queen Tips:

Do your kegels.  Knowing what it feels like when your muscles are tensed gives you a better understanding of what if feels like when they are relaxed.  Relaxation is key to taking bigger objects into the vagina.  The women who do kegels find accomodating any size large or small (feel more) easier and more fulfilling.

Lenght vs. Girth.  Girth is what you are going to feel the most stimulation.  Once you are at your limit of length there is no more space to expand.  Focus on girth.

Size Queen FAQs:

Won't my vagina stretch permanently? 
No.  The vagina is a 'potential' space.    Remember, the vagina can accomodate a baby's head and shoulders and still bounce back.  A large dildo comes no where near the size of a baby's head and will only give a temporary stretched feeling.   Feeling 'tight' is more a function of the muscular control surrounding the vagina.  If you are generally worried about a 'loose vagina', do your kegels!

What if I like it too much and I won't want to go back to normal?
That is like asking "what if I like chocolate too much?" before you even try it because you might like it too much and not want to eat other foods. Nonesense!  Most women like the ocassional vaginal stretch.  Vaginal stimulation on a regular basis is simply not that appealing to most women.